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Bare Nanay

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I've been thinking much about this.

Khale got a new puzzle mat from my in-laws, so Gab fixed the living room to give the little one a bigger space to roam. We've been wanting to get him some, but the tightness of our budget was so suffocating that we had to put off the thought a couple of times. Fortunately, his grandparents got him a set.

Thank you, Lord for Your provisions.



Two days ago, I sat on one end while my dear Popy was on the other. I opened my arms slightly to the front and said, "Come to mum".

He stood up, laughed and stomped a foot a few times. I encouraged him one more time and he started walking towards me. I hugged him.




Yesterday, while teaching breastfeeding to new mums and mums-to-be with my Breastfeeding Pinays Co-Counselors, I held a 6-week old baby girl, and I asked myself:


"Where has time gone?"


Me, in the middle holding a baby. Khale was further left, being independent and playing with a co-counselor's daughter.


I looked at Khale this morning. I told him to hold on the rail; and he just looked at me, smiling and clapping his hands.


Nine months came and left so quickly.

He's big and tall and heavy. He talks so much. He sits and stands and wouldn't stop moving. He laughs a lot and loves being surprised.

I held his hand that afternoon; and I noticed his hands are bigger, his fingernails are longer.

Where has time gone, my love?

From being carried all the time to rolling to sitting to crawling to standing to walking...

From breastfeeding to sleep to sleeping on your own...

From cries to saying mum and bubba...


Look, mum! No hands! - Khale

I wonder how much longer or shorter it would take for him to become a boy and then a man.

I pray he would still let me hold his hand when we walk together and let me hold his hand even when he has grown.

We've come such a long way... and I love him even more.
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Summer has officially started. Is your itinerary ready?

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Zoobic Safari
Who doesn’t like animals?

If you’re heading up north or you’d like to go somewhere not far from the metro, then Zoobic Safari at Subic Bay Freeport’s Forest Adventure is the place for you. From tigers to camels (yes, camels!) to snakes, find them all in a sprawling twenty five hectare land featuring a wide range of simulated natural habitats.

Zoobic Safari is the only Tiger Safari in the Philippines with more than 50 tigers. They also have Ligers, a breed of tigers and lions.



Address:
Group I, Ilanin Forest Subic Bay Freeport Zone, Subic Bay Freeport Zone
Ticket Rates:
Adult - P 545.00
Kids – P 445.00

Paradizoo Theme Farm
What could be a more perfect nature trip for your favorite adult or for yourself?

Head on to the Paradizoo Farm in Mendez in Cavite! They have all sorts of farm animals, roaming free and in fences, like llamas, camels, miniature horses, ostriches, greyhounds and Labrador retrievers. You can even ride a cart drawn by an albino carabao.

Paradizoo offers a “Plant Me Home” experience where you get to pick vegetables and flowers that you can take home.

Now, that’s farm living!

Address:
Km. 63 Panungyan Mendez, Cavite
Ticket rates:
Adult – P 149.00
Kids – P 99.00

Residence Inn
Tired of the hustle and bustle and the heat of the city life?

Then drive south and feel the cold breeze of Tagaytay while taking pleasure in the breath-taking view of Taal at Residence Inn. There activities to enjoy for the young and the young-at-heart. Residence Inn is famous for its Mini Zoo. You can also try Bulalo or Tawilis in their in-house restaurant, The Gazebo. After all, what is Tagaytay without these culinary delights? You may also try the Zipline overlooking Taal volcano.

Address:
Km. 65 Barrio Neogan Tagaytay City
Ticket rates:
Adult – P 249.00
Kids – P 199.00


Zoocolate Thrills
From the Visayas? No problem!

Zoocolate Thrills is the only Adventure Theme Park in Loboc, Bohol by Zoomanity Group. This tourist attraction has something enjoyable for every age.

Do you want to dine on a river cruise? Check!

Do you want to fun animal encounters and interactions? They have it!

They also offer tram ride, horse/buffalo ride and zip/zing ride.

Isn't that fun and exciting?

Address:
Barangay Gotozon, Loboc, Bohol
Ticket rates:
Adult – P99.00
Kids – P99.00

Zoocobia

You want a ZOO-per thrilling experience for that ZOO-per animal-lover in you?

There’s more to Zoocobia than viewing our friends from animalandia. Situated in the beautiful, lush, forested foothills of the extended Clark Freeport Zone, Zoocobia is an ecological experience of impressive proportions. Now, there’s no need to go all the way to Singapore to experience a gravity car because we have The Zooc right here running on a 400-meter track with three hairpin curves!

Delight in a close encounter with colorful birds; in showcases of various animals and plants that are endemic to the Philippines; in their Garden Maze that features various animal topiaries as you try to find your way out of it; and in their “The Barn” where you can feed baby farm animals. They also have a unique collection of stuffed real animals that have been preserved by our taxidermist at the Menagerie.

Address:
Clark Freeport Zone, Angeles City
Ticket rates:
Adult – P295.00
Kids – P295.00

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Poster courtesy of Pinay Doulas Collective


I was lucky enough to secure a slot in Pinay Doulas Collective’s Kwentuhang Kababaihan: Our Birth Stories last March 30, 2016. When I asked for pocket money and registration fee from my husband for this event, I have convinced him that I needed it for the betterment of my breastfeeding peer counseling and that we could really use it for the next child (if and only if). He laughed and shook his head on the thought of the next child.

There was a large circular padded mat in the middle of a room at Kindermusik in Bonifacio Global City. I placed Khale in front of me, and he giddily crawled across. He reached, surprisingly, a woman I know. My uncle’s wife was there, too. It was the first time I saw her in person and Khale found her. I crawled after Khale and introduced myself.



Not my uncle's wife, but I just wanted  to show how Khale left me on the other side. :)

Then I saw a woman walking on the side of the room where I sat earlier; hugging and kissing everyone on the cheek. When we came back to our spot, she was somewhere else already; hence, no hugs and kisses for me and my little bub. I wanted to run after her and ask for it, really, but then the stories started.

Technically, my aunt, getting a kiss from Ibu. Photo courtesy of Pinay Doulas Collective


The woman is Robin Lim or Ibu (Mother) Robin. She is a midwife, founder of Yayasan Bumi Sehat Birth Centers, and awardee of the 2011 CNN Hero of the Year. I have searched about her before coming to the event and found her awarding video. It made me cry.

Ibu Robin

She exuded the aura of every bit of a loving mother. She was like a ray of sunshine; warm and bright, even in the afternoon.

The room was filled with Ibu, midwives from Bumi Sehat and Shiphrah Birthing Home, mothers, fathers, and children. We started with introductions.

From L-R: Me and Khale, Jenina, her son Ynigo and her partner Christian. Photo courtesy of Pinay Doulas Collective



Deb from Shiphrah and Khale's new friend. He bit on her name tag.

“I am Nina, mother of an almost 9-month old Khale. I am a work-at-home mum and a Breastfeeding Peer Counselor.”

Thank you for this photo! Photo courtesy of Pinay Doulas Collective

We had a dance led by Pinay Doulas’ resident dancer, Noelle Pollack. I danced with Khale while carrying him. It was such a workout for someone who wasn't a dancer. I was like a tree. A bamboo was even more graceful than me.

Photo courtesy of Pinay Doulas Collective

Then we sat down again, and began the birth stories. There was a woman who got rejected several times by obstetricians because they thought that the birth that she wanted was “too ambitious”. There was a mother of four who had wonderful birth stories to tell. There was a mother with a daughter who was having her second pregnancy. She lost her first grandchild. There was a doula who gave birth via cesarean section twice. There was another doula that was told that she only needed to “kick the door”. There was a daughter whose midwife mother did not want to interfere with her childbirth; and there was the midwife mother who said that during the moment her daughter was giving birth, she was not a midwife, but she was a grandmother. There was a father of two who recalled his wife’s smile while fully dilated on the birth of their second.

I was particularly teary-eyed on the father’s story, but there were a lot of tears that afternoon.

Then there was me.

40 weeks, 4 days and forever…

“I had a very normal and easy pregnancy, except for the first trimester when I had my all-day sickness to the point of vomiting blood. My husband and I created a birth plan on the third trimester, and discussed it with our OB.

I said I wanted my husband in the delivery room, so I can hold his hand while pushing; and the doctor said it was not allowed in the hospital, but that she would call him when the baby starts to crown.

I said I wanted to walk during labor. She said, I couldn’t because I would be strapped to a fetal monitor.

I said I wanted to have delayed cord clamping. She said yes.

I asked if my husband could cut the cord. She said yes.

I said I wanted unang yakap (first embrace) and immediate rooming in. She said it was protocol.

For all the requests I have made that were turned down, I thought maybe it was just how it was.”

Several people in the room nodded and agreed. It is true, yes? Being non-medical people who only rely on Google and who only see a whole bunch of hospital births shown by the media, we think these are all normal.

“On my 40th week, I found myself walking under the rain on our roof deck with an umbrella, requesting my son to come out because my parents have dragged me to the mall for two weeks to help with labor, to no avail.

Three more days after, I said yes to my doctor when she asked if I wanted to be admitted because I was overdue already and 1 cm dilated. My doctor was nice, but I didn’t know so much and I was not told the option that I could wait till the 42nd week. All I knew was that I was excited to see my son. I thought I was going to give birth that night, but I didn’t.

When I was in the admitting area, there was a woman who was crying and shouting on the bed beside mine. Being the jolly me, I talked to her and told her that she could do it. When I got into the labor room, I found myself alone, trapped on the bed and at the mercy of nurses when I needed to pee Worse, my husband was only allowed to see and talk to me by the door once; and he tried to keep coming back hoping that the nurse on-duty will change and let him see me again.

I labored from 5 P.M. until 3 A.M. I progressed and my cervix became 3 cm dilated. There was a point during the labor where the fetal heart rate rose and everyone panicked and asked me if he was moving. He was.

I was allowed 7 hours of rest in my own room. Then they rolled me back to the labor room again the next day at 10 A.M. By 12 N.N., the fetal heart rate rose. The baby was no longer moving. My doctor said she would have to perform a cesarean section.

I cried because I have mustered up all the courage to push in a normal delivery. I have even refused anesthesia, and there we were. My son was in danger.

The process took 15 minutes. I was awake the whole time. Khale came out in cord coil. We had unang singhot (first sniff) and not unang yakap. My husband did not know if the delayed cord clamping was done. He did not cut the cord.

As far as I know, only the immediate rooming-in was performed. And after all that, I was just thankful that I was able to successfully breastfeed Khale from day 1.

In support group for pregnant women that I administer, I encourage them to take control of their childbirth because it should be about them, their husbands and their babies. I may not had been able to have a wonderful birthing experience, but I hope that they will.”

Ibu Robin emphasized on the importance of gentle births; how cesarean section may sometimes be necessary, but it can be gentle as well; how we needed and deserved the respect from people who were supposedly there to help us with childbirth; and how things like the stories we have shared can affect our relationships.

Postpartum depression is very real. A traumatic birth experience may affect the mothering of the mother to her child. I have a friend who refused to take care of her child when she gave birth, because all she could remember was the pain brought to her by her birthing experience.

She shared with us the video of her own daughter-in-law’s water birth, and my, my. If I could turn back time, I would go for a delivery like that.

Watching water birth. Photo courtesy of Pinay Doulas Collective

Please do remember that a mother is a mother no matter how we give birth. We will never be any less than one. A gentle birth is not about childbirth in water or through a normal delivery or without anesthesia. It is about respect, about giving you options, and informing you of those options.

And I wish I knew about these things before.

I fan-girled here because Ibu Robin was beside me and she asked about my carrier. Photo courtesy of Jenina Tuazon
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